Goin’ to the Chapel: RadioPotato is getting hitched!
I’m getting married! Going from the quintessential single gal about town to a betrothed woman has had more twists and turns than a roller coaster at Six Flags. As I knock on the door of 37 years, I feel like I’m in the exact right spot but conversely, feel the ticking of that internal time bomb that so many women feel – did I wait too long?
I met Chris on December 4, 2008. Match.com Date. His first one ever. Me? Notevenclose. On our first date at Graveyard Tavern, Chris did a shot before I got there and I told him he hit the jackpot. I know, I’m a total catch. After two weeks of interesting conversation and him being super sweet, I dumped him. I wasn’t used to that nonsense. Plus, he took me to Black Bear Tavern….where alcoholics go to die. And so concluded our short romantic stint. Or did it?
Chris was smart, funny, into music, and an incredible conversationalist. We had something else in common, too. We L-O-V-E-D to explore the city and sight see. So he said that even though we weren’t dating anymore, he’d love to hang out sometimes and check out the unique parts of the city. Meanwhile, Chris was googling “how to get out of the friend zone.” Yes, I’m serious. And just so you know, all the advice said to be a jerk.
After two months and a fortuitous jovial “old hag” comment that resulted in me hysterically crying and an uncharacteristically moving hand-written letter response from Chris, I finally came to my senses. Sometimes us women are so used to ranking lower than we should on the priority scale by others that we subconsciously re-create that pattern over and over. I wasn’t used to how he treated me and cautiously tiptoed into his arms.
- He is strong with my head and gentle with my heart
- Chris hates being the center of attention – so he isn’t the kind of guy that stands out in a crowd. But when you talk to him one-on-one, you’re left feeling so much better about yourself. He’s so genuinely interesting and interested
- I’m a crazy and driven woman. Chris has not only been encouraging and supportive (in fact, he suggested I start this blog), but he tells me he’s proud of me every single day
- If you follow me on Facebook, you’ll know he cooks for me every night. This is not an activity I share the same (or any) passion for but he comes home with the biggest smile on his face when he can take care of me. He deserves a medal. For realz.
So the engagement. Yes, I knew it was coming thanks to my fiance and my amazing sister-in-law (who was in cahoots with Chris) who are not exactly famous for concealing important information. Our very first vacation was in Asheville, NC in 2009 and we just love everything about the little mountain town. Street musicians everywhere, drum circles, the hippie culture, the haunted history, aaaaand the Biltmore Estate, the Vanderbilt’s breathtaking summer home nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains.
Chris and I have a really great time traveling and exploring cities. I’m assuming that after Chris bought the ring, he excitedly said we should go on vacation in September. Back to Asheville, it was! So on Saturday, September 10, 2011, we were at the Biltmore. I could feel Chris’ hand getting clammy during some points of the day and I wondered when he would pop the question. We went on two tours of the Biltmore, went through the gardens, stopped in a field of sunflowers, went to the Biltmore winery. Nothing. But after a couple of cocktails at the wine tasting, Chris said let’s go back to the Biltmore and see if we can take some pictures at sunset. And we did. There were no cars and nobody around. And then, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. This is what happened:
YES!!!! So as we embark on our journey towards marriage, we are so excited! For me, I’ve been dizzy with happiness and good news. What I would LOVE more than anything, is to have a happy, successful, healthy marriage. And I’d love your advice. Successful relationships, failed relationships, and hopeful single people – if you feel so inclined, I would be so honored if you would share your advice in the comments section below.
Oh, and since this is a music blog, I thought this song was appropriate.